Ever Think, “There’s Got To Be Something More?” You’re Right, There Is…

If you want more meaning in your life, give. YOU are the only one who can bring “something more” into your experience. As we expect the world to provide us with fulfillment, we miss the point of Life. We are here to create our own fulfillment. And fulfillment does not come from material things, it comes from enriching Life–ALL LIFE. As we enrich our lives, we enrich others’s lives too… not with a mission of saving anyone–because only they can bring “something more” into their own experience, too, but just with a mission of revealing our inherent Nature, which is happiness.

If your job is not satisfying, consider that it may not be the job but your resistance to the job, to a coworker, to your boss, or to the idea of working. Where there is resistance, there is fear. What is the fear? Does it show up in other areas of your life? If yes, then it’s not the job that’s the problem… this fear will keep resurfacing as a an invitation to deal with it head on and see it for the illusion it is. What would your life look like without that fear? Can you think of one healthy, peaceful reason to hold on to that fear? Then bless it and let it be. It is a learned condition, and it no longer serves you.

The same holds true in all areas of our lives. We see it most in relationships. Where there is withholding in a relationship, there is a power struggle. Under the power struggle there is… fear.  If you want your romantic relationship to be deeply real and wildly intimate like it was in the beginning, then BE deeply real and wildly intimate… not just once or twice to test the waters, but all the time. Your mate will either show up and meet you there or not, but to demand a deeply real and wildly intimate relationship of your mate first is unfair. And if you’re demanding that of your mate–notice the pattern–where else are you expecting the world to deliver the goods first?

As you take responsibility for your experience in every area of your life, your happiness–which is our inherent Nature when we live authentically–will bloom and grow.

Your happiness will empower others to do the same… and that is how it propagates entire families and communities. Happiness is always an inside job. We can only change ourselves and encourage others that they’re on the right path (and only they know what the right path is for them). When we tell others they are wise, capable, full of potential, and facing dozens of wondrous opportunities, even if they don’t see them yet, we are BEING LOVE and creating safe space for them to empower themselves to live authentically.

People let down their armor when they feel safe. “It is easier to get a man to remove his coat with a warm sun than a cold, biting wind.” Be wholly loving to yourself and the inspirational powerhouse you already are will expand into “more…” and yet more.

AFFIRMATION:

Today, I choose to give myself what I may be expecting or think I require from another; as I do so, I free up our relationship for wildly greater levels of Love, Harmony, Peace, and Joy.

© Gretchen Kennedy, RScP  |   http://www.gretchenkennedy.me

A Spiritual Booster Shot

I invite you to read these, take them into your meditation, alone or together, to ponder. May they reveal a Life of Peace, Joy, Love, Freedom, Truth, and greater understanding of Who You Really Are:

  • There is one God, and It is indivisible from Itself. There is no power greater than God, nothing to oppose God, no Satan… Evil is a man-made construct stemming from a sense of separation from God. It is our mistaken use of our abilities and thinking.
  • If God is indivisible, you are inseparable from God. This sense of separation from our Source is the root of all unwanted conditions/suffering. We are all of God, made in the image and likeness of God, and this is true of EVERYONE.
  • God is Love Itself, and It wants you to thrive, to have a creatively lush life of Good, filled with meaning and purpose.
  • God is ever-expanding. Through us, as individualized expressions of God, the Universe expands to accommodate the omni-activity of all Life.
  • There is Free Will in order for us to expand, and so our doubts/fears/self-worth participate in every step of our journey, creating contrast and presenting us with opportunities to heal and evolve, to enjoy pure Faith that we are not separate from God, to awaken  and align to our inherent Nature of Good, which is Love, the heart of God.
  • You are made in the image and likeness of God; therefore, you have all of Its qualities available to you — Love, Peace, Joy, Abundance, Balance, Well-Being, Order, Creativity, Compassion, etc.
  • In every situation, God is present, active, and all-powerful, and as you open to God’s unlimited potential that is operating in, as, and through you, you can shift any experience. The same Power that moves mountains and creates galaxies is ever-available to you, simply by acknowledging It.
  • These qualities are made manifest in your life to the degree that you align with them (if you want Peace, be Peace, if you want a greater sense of self-worth, volunteer, if you want more money, tithe to your church or whatever spiritual sources feed your sense of upliftment, if you want more Freedom, allow others the Freedom to be Who They Really Are, etc.).
  • Your thoughts are creative (God/the Universe responds to them, and always says, “Yes! OK! Here you go!” It responds most to the recurring/focused/charged thoughts. Your word is even more creative, particularly what you say about yourself. Never speak a negative word about anyone, ever. We are all One, so when you speak against someone, you manifest against yourself.
  • Death is an illusion… it is like changing coats. The Soul, as an individualized expression of God, is eternal.
  • You are loved, not matter what.
  • You are essential to the Whole, no matter what.
  • You are working with a Power that is beyond the human mind’s ability to fathom to create a beautiful life… Have faith in that, no matter what.
  • Your purpose is to share your Love, unique gifts, and talents to help others to come to know their preciousness and unlimited potential, and that is where you will find the most happiness.

15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy

By Purpose FairyImage

Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go:

1. Give up your need to always be right. There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?”Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?

2. Give up your need for control. Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.

“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu

3. Give up on blame. Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.

4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk. Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.

“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle

5. Give up your limiting beliefs about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!

“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle

6. Give up complaining. Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.

7. Give up the luxury of criticism. Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.

8. Give up your need to impress others. Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take of all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.

9. Give up your resistance to change. Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.
“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” 
Joseph Campbell

10. Give up labels. Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open. “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” Wayne Dyer

11. Give up on your fears. Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.
“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.”
 Franklin D. Roosevelt

12. Give up your excuses. Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.

13. Give up the past. I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.

14. Give up attachment. This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another,  attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.

15. Give up living your life to other people’s expectations. Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves.  You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.

Shared from PurposeFairy: http://www.purposefairy.com/3308/15-things-you-should-give-up-in-order-to-be-happy/

The Authentic Life

What does it mean to live authentically?

My mother would say it means to say what you mean and mean what you say, but if you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything at all.

She had it right.

But, living an authentic life is also about being true to ourselves in how we share ourselves in the world. And, I’m not just talking about sharing our opinions. If we never share our talents, reveal our creations—that painting, that poem, that song, that idea for a new business—are we being authentic? When we hide behind the paycheck of an unfulfilling job rather than start that business we’ve been planning and concocting for years, are we living an authentic life? When we dream of giving, of helping, of donating, of praising, of serving, and we withhold, are we being authentic?

Whatever your reasons have been, I invite you to stop believing them.

Living an authentic life requires vulnerability, to admit that wrong, to ask for what we need, to be the first to say, “I’m sorry,” to be the first to say, “I love you.”

Paul Coehlo says, “The magic moment is that in which a ‘Yes’ or a ‘No’ may change the all of your existence.”

When we live an authentic life, we appreciate those magic moments more… because we’re consciously creating them. We understand when we’re standing on the precipice because we chose to climb up here. Indeed, we created the precipice.

Of course, living an authentic life requires courage… a great deal of courage. After all, sometimes the scariest thing in the world is to stand up for what we believe in when everyone else is sitting down. Imagine yourself for a minute standing up there… alone.

What had you stand up? What causes you to remain standing? Is it the ego’s need to be right?  Or something more? Something greater?  Think about it… what has you stay standing has far more stamina than the ego. The ego would have sat down long ago.

At some point, we come to realize that living an authentic life is nothing less than an act of Love… perhaps the greatest act of Love there is.

Love, and Love alone, can stand up there forever. Love knows that authenticity brings greater intimacy, greater meaning, and greater rewards, even if no one else gets up there with you.

What does it mean to live authentically?

To live an authentic life means to be Love in every moment because there is no acceptable alternative.

After all, if we’re not authentic, what are we?

© 2012, Gretchen DeWees Kennedy

To Dance The Sublime Waltz with the Universe, Take 3 Small Steps

Or, How to Instantly Shift the Course of Your Daily Life Without The Funky Chicken

At the center of every nucleus of every atom is energy… the same energy.  Whether it is found in water or plant or mineral or human being, we all share the same energy.  And that energy is alive, creative, intelligent, magnetic, and attractive to itself.  In other words, energy knows no separation from itself, no matter where it resides.  Moreover, it is omni-active.  It never sleeps, and it never dies. It is in a constant state of relation to itself, in all its forms.

Because this energy is magnetic, the law of “like attracts like” is brought into our everyday experience of matter. It makes sense then, that as we shift our own state of being, we draw to us conditions that reflect our current state of being.  As our moods change from day to day, the energy around us responds, creating conditions that match our state of being.  We may not even notice it (yet).  What we do tend to notice, however, are bigger “waves” of events that happen in succession or over time (“They say bad things come in three’s, so what’s next?” or “I must have no immune system because I’m always sick,” or “I’ll be fine!  I will land on my feet. I always do!”).

Even our thoughts impact this energy that is at the center of every atom in our cells.  See if you can feel your entire body uplift while reading this sentence: “I’m a golden goose, everything I touch turns to gold!”  Likewise, see if you can feel your entire body deflate with this one:  “I just can’t catch a break, and now my unemployment benefits are running out.”  The power of this energy is unfailing in its ability to create conditions by attracting more of the same to itself.

We call this power many things (God, Life, Intelligence, Spirit, etc.).  Here, I am calling it “The Universe.”

In us, this creation process starts with our thoughts.  We are truly the masters of our domain. In other words,  life mirrors our dominant or chronic thought patterns.  That means that we can co-create with the Universe an entirely different experience by changing our perspective, and that starts with considering for a moment–just one moment–that other possibilities are available to us.  If you’re not open to that concept, try re-reading the first 2 paragraphs again.

Actually, we co-create our lives through three, progressively powerful ways of engaging the Universe:

  1. our thoughts and words
  2. our vibrations (emotions/feelings)
  3. our actions

And, because you are the master of your domain, the Universe always responds with, “Your wish is my command.”

Thoughts/Words:  When we think of some outcome to a situation (good or bad), the Universe begins to organize around that thinking.  The more we think about it, and the more we talk about it, the more dominant it becomes compared to our other thoughts and spoken words. The Universe pays attention to our most dominant thoughts, making them more likely to come about. The longer and stronger we hold that thought pattern, the more times we will experience aspects of that condition.

Vibrations:  When we add feeling to those thoughts (i.e. whether we’re conjuring up fear and anxiety or the freedom, joy, peace, security, etc. produced by the perfect outcome), we align our vibration to an end result, and the Universe now responds to a much clearer attractor field (the bigger our emotion, the bigger the result).

Actions:  However, when we take action toward achieving that result, no matter how small, the Universe now also has something concrete to mirror and build upon.  It’s like we’re telling the Universe, “Do it like this. Now do it like this.” Every step we take toward the pictured result provides an opportunity for the Universe to act now to clear obstacles, arrange resources, people, and events, and bring our emotionally charged, dominant thought patterns to life, compounding whatever actions we take with its own greater actions.

Always remember, because you are the master of your domain, the Universe works with you for BOTH your greatest desires AND your greatest fears.  As loving as It is, It is neutral, and It allows you to experience–in full glory–of all of your choices:

The Funky Chicken:

You’re alone at a wedding you’ve been dreading for months (having turned down the offer from a good friend to fix you up with her “cute” cousin), painfully aware of how everyone else is coupled up and having fun dancing. You toss back your fourth glass of champagne and wish they’d cut the cake already, so you could leave. Then, the most horrific wedding music ever heard is played: The Funky Chicken.  As you roll your eyes, you hear someone call your name. You sink down into your chair just as the bride rushes by.  She yanks you up and throws you into the throng of dancers. A rush of embarrassment hits you as she starts dancing in a circle around you.  Everyone is watching and laughing.  You don’t remember how to do the Funky Chicken.  You awkwardly stand there until you catch on. As your elbow wings start to beat ridiculously, you collide with the woman dancing next to you.  Your tired feet cross, nearly toppling you over.  The bride steps hard on your foot.  As the song ends, you try not to limp too noticeably back to your empty table. Then, the band starts playing a favorite song of yours, and, because you won’t be dancing to it, you grab another glass of champagne from a passing waiter and wait for this miserable night to end.

OR…

The Sublime Waltz:

Think of the Universe as your attractive blind date at a wedding (a blind date you agreed to with mixed trepidation and excitement).  You’re sitting with the Universe getting acquainted. A favorite song comes on, and you think, “I’d love to dance.” You catch the Universe’s eye, and It smiles at you, swaying a little in Its seat, clearly also moved by the music.  Suddenly you have an emotional surge of anticipation as you think, “I want to experience joy together with the Universe on the dance floor!”  Just as you start to ask “Would you care to—” you see the Universe is already rising, grinning, and holding out Its hand, thrilled that you want to dance. Out on the dance floor, the Universe is a spectacular partner, in sync with your every move, step for step, turn for turn, flourish for flourish. You’re so magically in tune, you aren’t sure who is leading whom, all you know is the dance is effortless, fluid, beautiful, and endless, and you are both giddy with the joy of it.  Eventually, you begin to tire, the song changes, and you tell the Universe that you no longer want to dance.  The Universe smiles, nods, and, holding your hand, gracefully leads the way back to your table.

TO ENGAGE THE UNIVERSE IN THE SUBLIME WALTZ, TAKE 3 SMALL STEPS:

Do 3 small things each week (eventually working up to twice a week, then three times a week, then every other day, and in a year or two, perhaps, daily):

  1. To Retrain Your Thoughts:  Do one thing spiritual (express gratitude for the things that went well that week, meditate for 15 minutes, read an uplifting passage and contemplate it for 15 minutes, write an affirmation and say it aloud 21 times a day for a week, take a silent walk in nature, send a thank you card to your Higher Self, etc.
  2. To Uplift Your Vibration:  Do one healthy, fun thing for yourself that relieves stress and rejuvenates you (take a bubble bath, be in service to someone in need, play hide and seek with your kids, paint a picture, call an old friend, cuddle with your dog, go for a ride in the country, etc.)
  3. To Direct The Universe With Your Actions:  Do one thing you want the Universe to mirror and build upon to help you achieve your desired outcome more quickly and easily (announce a dream to start a business to someone you admire, write a page for that book you’ve always wanted to write, walk the dog at a brisker pace, send your resume to one company with a cover letter specific to that job, buy organic vegetables, smile at 5 strangers, spend 30 minutes sorting through a clutter pile, fulfill a lapsed commitment, etc.)

Keep notes on your progress and notice what miracles start taking place in your life.  Feel free to post any feedback below!

Happy Co-Creating!

Gretchen

© 2012 Gretchen DeWees Kennedy