If you want more meaning in your life, give. YOU are the only one who can bring “something more” into your experience. As we expect the world to provide us with fulfillment, we miss the point of Life. We are here to create our own fulfillment. And fulfillment does not come from material things, it comes from enriching Life–ALL LIFE. As we enrich our lives, we enrich others’s lives too… not with a mission of saving anyone–because only they can bring “something more” into their own experience, too, but just with a mission of revealing our inherent Nature, which is happiness.
If your job is not satisfying, consider that it may not be the job but your resistance to the job, to a coworker, to your boss, or to the idea of working. Where there is resistance, there is fear. What is the fear? Does it show up in other areas of your life? If yes, then it’s not the job that’s the problem… this fear will keep resurfacing as a an invitation to deal with it head on and see it for the illusion it is. What would your life look like without that fear? Can you think of one healthy, peaceful reason to hold on to that fear? Then bless it and let it be. It is a learned condition, and it no longer serves you.
The same holds true in all areas of our lives. We see it most in relationships. Where there is withholding in a relationship, there is a power struggle. Under the power struggle there is… fear. If you want your romantic relationship to be deeply real and wildly intimate like it was in the beginning, then BE deeply real and wildly intimate… not just once or twice to test the waters, but all the time. Your mate will either show up and meet you there or not, but to demand a deeply real and wildly intimate relationship of your mate first is unfair. And if you’re demanding that of your mate–notice the pattern–where else are you expecting the world to deliver the goods first?
As you take responsibility for your experience in every area of your life, your happiness–which is our inherent Nature when we live authentically–will bloom and grow.
Your happiness will empower others to do the same… and that is how it propagates entire families and communities. Happiness is always an inside job. We can only change ourselves and encourage others that they’re on the right path (and only they know what the right path is for them). When we tell others they are wise, capable, full of potential, and facing dozens of wondrous opportunities, even if they don’t see them yet, we are BEING LOVE and creating safe space for them to empower themselves to live authentically.
People let down their armor when they feel safe. “It is easier to get a man to remove his coat with a warm sun than a cold, biting wind.” Be wholly loving to yourself and the inspirational powerhouse you already are will expand into “more…” and yet more.
Today, I choose to give myself what I may be expecting or think I require from another; as I do so, I free up our relationship for wildly greater levels of Love, Harmony, Peace, and Joy.
© Gretchen Kennedy, RScP | http://www.gretchenkennedy.me