Freeing Last Words for a Dying Loved One to Assist in Their Journey

Angel in the Light

What do most people fear at the moment of death? The unknown, that Life ends, that there is no God, and that their regrets or fears or worries can’t be resolved and may stay with them for eternity.

I have had two near-death experiences after surgery (discovering I’m allergic to Dilaudid), and I want to say… it is pure BLISS!

In those moments, time stopped. Joy Itself was radiating from every cell of my body. I was floating on waves of Love, Creativity, Peace (utter Peace), everything dropping away except my awareness that my body was no longer mine—that it NEVER WAS mine—that THIS is Who I Really Am. And yet, I was still very much aware, present, active, thinking and focused—not on the room, which was abuzz with activity, but on the sheer dreaminess of it all. There is Life Hereafter, and it is Divine—ALL DIVINEIn other words, there is nothing else. This body, that beeping, those nurses, this physical condition, are all illusions, temporary experiences in matter—a gift, to be sure, but a temporary gift.

The Truth is we ARE truly spiritual beings having a human experience, and ours is a fluid, co-creative reality that is ever-changing and backed by Infinite Potential, nothing less than Love Itself.

The most giving gesture you can offer someone in their final hours is the Freedom and Comfort of the Truth. Of course, you can’t explain all of this to a dying person, but you can bring them real comfort telling them that they are loved, forgiven, and already accepted by God…

I offer you these words to say to one in their final days or hours, perhaps over and over again. I hope they help bring final Peace for you and your dear friend or family member who is transitioning into this pure Awareness.

Beloved, you are in the midst of Love Itself, already resting in the arms of the Divine. God made you and has never left you. You are already accepted and received. You are wholly safe. You are already Perfect, Whole and Complete, yet nothing is ending. You are Infinite, now being reborn into the full awareness of your Oneness with Source.

You are already forgiven for anything you feel requires forgiveness, for forgiveness was never necessary. Thank you for playing your part so perfectly. Thank you for loving me so well. Thank you for letting yourself be loved by me.

Know that this Life continues. This connection continues. You are never alone. I am never alone. There is no separation. We are truly One, so this is not goodbye. I am fine. You are fine.

Breathe the breath of God, beloved. Be at ease now and know that All Is Well, All is Grace, All is Love. You are already resting in God’s Heart.

This playlist on Spotify from Adam Pacitti is at once soothing and uplifting for this time. 

The 5 Top Regrets People Express On Their Death Beds

For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives. People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality.

I learned never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.

When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. Passion is the life force of creation, and our dreams continue to fuel our renewed passion for more… more love, more joy, more peace, more abundance, more well-being… more creation!

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.
This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.

By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never
became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a
result.

We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.

It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical
details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end.
That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again. When you are on your deathbed, what  others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.

Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.

Source –  http://www.ariseindiaforum.org/nurse-reveals-the-top-5-regrets-people-make-on-their-deathbed/