Byron Katie Quotes
“I’m a lover of reality. When I argue with What Is, I lose… but only 100% of the time.”
“Anything you want to ask a teacher, ask yourself, and wait for the answer in silence.”
“The teacher you need is the person you’re living with.”
“It’s not your job to like me – it’s mine.”
“I am the perpetrator of my suffering… all of it.”
“Do you want to meet the love of your life? Look in the mirror.”
“The mind’s job is to validate what it thinks.”
“Placing the blame or judgment on someone else leaves you powerless to change your experience. Taking responsibility for your beliefs and judgments gives you the power to change them… and your life.”
“The voice within is what I’m married to. All marriage is a metaphor for that marriage.
My lover is the place inside me where an honest yes and no come from.
That’s my true partner. It’s always there.
And to tell you yes when my integrity says no is to divorce that partner.”
“An uncomfortable feeling is not an enemy. It’s a gift that says, “Get honest; inquire.”
We reach out for alcohol, or television, or credit cards, so we can focus out there and not have to look at the feeling. And that’s just as it should be, because in our innocence we haven’t known how.
So now what we can do is reach out for a paper and a pencil, write thought down, and investigate.”
“Nothing can cost you someone you love.
The only thing that can cost you your husband is if you believe a thought.
That’s how you move away from him.
That’s how the marriage ends.
You are One with your husband until you believe the thought that he should look a certain way, he should give you something, he should be something other than what he is.
That’s how you divorce him.
Right then and there you have lost your marriage.”
“So, how do you get back to heaven?
To begin with, just notice the thoughts that take you away from it.
You don’t have to believe everything your thoughts tell you.
Just become familiar with the particular thoughts you use to deprive yourself of happiness.
It may seem strange at first to get to know yourself in this way, but becoming familiar with your stressful thoughts
will show you the way home to everything you need.”
“The Work always leaves you with less of a story.
Who would you be without your story?
You never know until you inquire.
There is no story that is you or that leads to you.
Every story leads away from you.
Turn it around; undo it.
You are what exists before all stories.
You are what remains when the story is understood.”
“You move totally away from reality when you believe that there is a legitimate reason to suffer.”
“You don’t get to vote on what is. Have you noticed?”
“The world is nothing but my perception of it. I see only through myself. I hear only through the filter of my story.”
“The world is perfect.
As you question your mind, this becomes more and more obvious.
Mind changes, and as a result, the world changes.
A clear mind heals everything that needs to be healed.
It can never be fooled into believing that there is one speck out of order.”
“Thoughts are just what is. They appear. They’re innocent. They’re not personal.
They’re like the breeze or the leaves on the trees or the raindrops falling.
Thoughts arise like that, and we can make friends with them.
Would you argue with a raindrop?”
“I’ve heard people say that they cling to their painful thoughts
because they’re afraid that without them they wouldn’t be activists for peace.
“If I feel peaceful,” they say, “why would I bother taking action at all?”
My answer is “Because that’s what Love does.”
To think that we need sadness or outrage to motivate us to do what’s right is insane, as if the clearer and happier you get, the less kind you become, as if when someone finds freedom, she just sits around all day with drool running down her chin.
My experience is the opposite.”
“Love is action.”
“Personalities don’t love. They want something.”
“Would you rather be right or free?”
“The only time we suffer is when we believe a thought that argues with what is.
When the mind is perfectly clear, what is is what we want.”
“The end of suffering happens in this very moment, whether you’re watching a terrorist attack or doing the dishes.
And compassion begins at home.
Because I don’t believe my thoughts, sadness can’t exist.
That’s how I can go to the depths of anyone’s suffering, if they invite me, and take them by the hand and walk them out of it into the sunlight of reality.
I’ve taken that walk myself.”
“All sadness is a tantrum.”
Byron Katie is the author of “Loving What Is,” and The Work. For free tools and more information, visit http://www.thework.com.