When All Else Fades

Integrity is everything. Without it, what do we have, who are we being, what are we attracting to us? Integrity is really all we have in this world. It is our word. It is our name. Indeed, it is our very presence. Our integrity both precedes us into a room and lingers long after we’re gone, sweet or stink. Our integrity is all we’re left with after all else fades.


See Yourself as You Want to Be

A vision board will help you feel the desired states of being and emotion on an ongoing basis
By Ernest Holmes

We are—and can only be—the sum total of all our thoughts and actions. Our subjective state of thought is constantly radiating into Universal Law the images of our entire library of beliefs… our beliefs around love, around life, around the world and our purpose in it. From these images of unconscious thought spring all of our outward conditions, the circumstances that make up this human experience. Deep within our subconscious mind are imprinted the memories of previous experiences… and therein lie the silent causes of our outward conditions.

Since the Universal Law which automatically receives our thoughts is always acting and never at rest, when we have chronic, habitual negative thoughts, we perpetuate experiences that we no longer want to have. What is needed, then, is a new outlook on the situation, a broader vision, a deeper realization. We need not be able to create this new perspective on the spot… we need only beopen to the possibility that one exists.  And of course one does.  In fact, the Spirit that Knows All Things has unlimited outcomes, all of which have already outwitted your greatest conundrum a thousand-fold.

The key, then, to success and happiness, is the conscious control of ongoing thought patterns and a continuous emission of constructive thinking and acting. This key will unlock the treasure house of the Infinite and reveal to us undreamed-of opportunities and experiences.

Because we are of the One Mind, any vision you can conjure of an outcome which is based in harmony and unity is already complete in the mind of Spirit.  It is Divinely ordained.

Visualization from this standpoint is a creative act that is never bothered by any existing condition or conditions. Once we are certain that our whole thought is harmonious and unified with Good, we may ask for what we want, and it shall be done unto us by the Law.

In visualizing, put the past entirely behind, where it belongs; nor think of the future, where it also belongs, but make your thoughts perceive the ever-present reality, which is only the NOW.  Do not worry about the “how’s.” God knows how!

Think of yourself as you would like to be, and calmly state that you are now in the position that you care to be in; that you are now doing the things you would like to be doing; that you now possess the things you want to possess; that your state of being is the ultimate state of being you can possibly imagine. Look at your picture as you would view a landscape, mentally dwelling on this picture, feeling the reality of it—the Joy of it, the Peace of it, the Love of it, the Prosperity of it, the Vitality of it—until you can sense that it is a reality.  Then leave the entire picture for the Law to work out for you, returning to your everyday affairs with perfect confidence that something is really taking place on the invisible side of your life, and that you will experience in outward form all of your inner aspirations.

As you speak as if the good outcome is already done, it is in the mind of God!

Edited by Gretchen DeWees Kennedy

The 5 Top Regrets People Express On Their Death Beds

For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives. People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality.

I learned never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.

When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. Passion is the life force of creation, and our dreams continue to fuel our renewed passion for more… more love, more joy, more peace, more abundance, more well-being… more creation!

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.
This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.

By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never
became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a

We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.

It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical
details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end.
That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again. When you are on your deathbed, what  others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.

Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.

Source –  http://www.ariseindiaforum.org/nurse-reveals-the-top-5-regrets-people-make-on-their-deathbed/

Guided Meditation on Letting Go of Self-Recrimination and Revealing Balance

Gretchen Kennedy, RScP

Balance is your inherent Nature.

“When I let go of who I am, I become who I might be.”

~ Lao Tzu

If we let go a little we will have a little peace; when we let go a lot we have a lot of peace; as we let go completely, we become complete Peace.

With every breath, feel yourself let go…     let go…     let go…     let go…

Now you are resting so sweetly in the arms of Divine Love….

Whisper:  As I let go of who I am, I become who I might be.

Breathe in Compassion.  Release fear.

Breathe in Wonder.  Release cynicism.

Breathe in Laughter.  Release ego.

Breathe in Forgiveness.  Release resentment.

Whisper:  As I let go of who I am, I become who I might be.

Breathe in Relief.  Release pain.

Breathe in Prosperity.  Release struggle.

Breathe in Creativity.  Release stagnation.

Breathe in Possibility. Release worry.

Breathe in Grace, the very Grace whose arms are holding you, always holding you.

Breathe into your heart. Go to the center of your heart, the very center of your being. You are in a beautiful circular room filled with dazzling light.

Coming into your awareness now, you feel in your arms a giant iron ball… heavy… so heavy. This iron ball is old… cold… rough… rusty… and heavy.  It is the sum of all of the negative thoughts you have been holding onto about yourself.  Some of these thoughts you learned, some you created.  You see that it is attached by a string to a point in the center of the ceiling.

A string?  How can a thin string hold up this giant iron ball?

And then you realize, your negative thoughts are an illusion.  There is no Truth to this iron ball.  It is made of false beliefs that you have chosen to hold onto.  This huge weight is a burden you have created and chosen to bear.

Choose right now to let it go… and let it go, just release it.

Ah!  Such lightness!

Whisper:  As I let go of who I am, I become who I might be.

As it swings away from you, the iron disintegrates, and beneath is a beautiful, brightly glowing crystal. As it swings, prisms of rainbows dance all over the walls, showering you in Beauty.

Finally, it comes to rest.  It comes to rest in the center of your heart, alive, sparkling with light, radiating Life.

Whisper:  As I let go of who I am, I become who I might be.

At the center of you is the Truth of Who You Are.

You are Good.

You are Complete Peace.

You are Unconditional Love.

You are Sheer Joy.

You are Absolute Freedom.

You are Infinite Well-Being.

Whisper:  As I let go of who I am, I become who I might be.

You are Perfect Balance.

You are Grace Itself.


© 2012 Gretchen DeWees Kennedy

To Dance The Sublime Waltz with the Universe, Take 3 Small Steps

Or, How to Instantly Shift the Course of Your Daily Life Without The Funky Chicken

At the center of every nucleus of every atom is energy… the same energy.  Whether it is found in water or plant or mineral or human being, we all share the same energy.  And that energy is alive, creative, intelligent, magnetic, and attractive to itself.  In other words, energy knows no separation from itself, no matter where it resides.  Moreover, it is omni-active.  It never sleeps, and it never dies. It is in a constant state of relation to itself, in all its forms.

Because this energy is magnetic, the law of “like attracts like” is brought into our everyday experience of matter. It makes sense then, that as we shift our own state of being, we draw to us conditions that reflect our current state of being.  As our moods change from day to day, the energy around us responds, creating conditions that match our state of being.  We may not even notice it (yet).  What we do tend to notice, however, are bigger “waves” of events that happen in succession or over time (“They say bad things come in three’s, so what’s next?” or “I must have no immune system because I’m always sick,” or “I’ll be fine!  I will land on my feet. I always do!”).

Even our thoughts impact this energy that is at the center of every atom in our cells.  See if you can feel your entire body uplift while reading this sentence: “I’m a golden goose, everything I touch turns to gold!”  Likewise, see if you can feel your entire body deflate with this one:  “I just can’t catch a break, and now my unemployment benefits are running out.”  The power of this energy is unfailing in its ability to create conditions by attracting more of the same to itself.

We call this power many things (God, Life, Intelligence, Spirit, etc.).  Here, I am calling it “The Universe.”

In us, this creation process starts with our thoughts.  We are truly the masters of our domain. In other words,  life mirrors our dominant or chronic thought patterns.  That means that we can co-create with the Universe an entirely different experience by changing our perspective, and that starts with considering for a moment–just one moment–that other possibilities are available to us.  If you’re not open to that concept, try re-reading the first 2 paragraphs again.

Actually, we co-create our lives through three, progressively powerful ways of engaging the Universe:

  1. our thoughts and words
  2. our vibrations (emotions/feelings)
  3. our actions

And, because you are the master of your domain, the Universe always responds with, “Your wish is my command.”

Thoughts/Words:  When we think of some outcome to a situation (good or bad), the Universe begins to organize around that thinking.  The more we think about it, and the more we talk about it, the more dominant it becomes compared to our other thoughts and spoken words. The Universe pays attention to our most dominant thoughts, making them more likely to come about. The longer and stronger we hold that thought pattern, the more times we will experience aspects of that condition.

Vibrations:  When we add feeling to those thoughts (i.e. whether we’re conjuring up fear and anxiety or the freedom, joy, peace, security, etc. produced by the perfect outcome), we align our vibration to an end result, and the Universe now responds to a much clearer attractor field (the bigger our emotion, the bigger the result).

Actions:  However, when we take action toward achieving that result, no matter how small, the Universe now also has something concrete to mirror and build upon.  It’s like we’re telling the Universe, “Do it like this. Now do it like this.” Every step we take toward the pictured result provides an opportunity for the Universe to act now to clear obstacles, arrange resources, people, and events, and bring our emotionally charged, dominant thought patterns to life, compounding whatever actions we take with its own greater actions.

Always remember, because you are the master of your domain, the Universe works with you for BOTH your greatest desires AND your greatest fears.  As loving as It is, It is neutral, and It allows you to experience–in full glory–of all of your choices:

The Funky Chicken:

You’re alone at a wedding you’ve been dreading for months (having turned down the offer from a good friend to fix you up with her “cute” cousin), painfully aware of how everyone else is coupled up and having fun dancing. You toss back your fourth glass of champagne and wish they’d cut the cake already, so you could leave. Then, the most horrific wedding music ever heard is played: The Funky Chicken.  As you roll your eyes, you hear someone call your name. You sink down into your chair just as the bride rushes by.  She yanks you up and throws you into the throng of dancers. A rush of embarrassment hits you as she starts dancing in a circle around you.  Everyone is watching and laughing.  You don’t remember how to do the Funky Chicken.  You awkwardly stand there until you catch on. As your elbow wings start to beat ridiculously, you collide with the woman dancing next to you.  Your tired feet cross, nearly toppling you over.  The bride steps hard on your foot.  As the song ends, you try not to limp too noticeably back to your empty table. Then, the band starts playing a favorite song of yours, and, because you won’t be dancing to it, you grab another glass of champagne from a passing waiter and wait for this miserable night to end.


The Sublime Waltz:

Think of the Universe as your attractive blind date at a wedding (a blind date you agreed to with mixed trepidation and excitement).  You’re sitting with the Universe getting acquainted. A favorite song comes on, and you think, “I’d love to dance.” You catch the Universe’s eye, and It smiles at you, swaying a little in Its seat, clearly also moved by the music.  Suddenly you have an emotional surge of anticipation as you think, “I want to experience joy together with the Universe on the dance floor!”  Just as you start to ask “Would you care to—” you see the Universe is already rising, grinning, and holding out Its hand, thrilled that you want to dance. Out on the dance floor, the Universe is a spectacular partner, in sync with your every move, step for step, turn for turn, flourish for flourish. You’re so magically in tune, you aren’t sure who is leading whom, all you know is the dance is effortless, fluid, beautiful, and endless, and you are both giddy with the joy of it.  Eventually, you begin to tire, the song changes, and you tell the Universe that you no longer want to dance.  The Universe smiles, nods, and, holding your hand, gracefully leads the way back to your table.


Do 3 small things each week (eventually working up to twice a week, then three times a week, then every other day, and in a year or two, perhaps, daily):

  1. To Retrain Your Thoughts:  Do one thing spiritual (express gratitude for the things that went well that week, meditate for 15 minutes, read an uplifting passage and contemplate it for 15 minutes, write an affirmation and say it aloud 21 times a day for a week, take a silent walk in nature, send a thank you card to your Higher Self, etc.
  2. To Uplift Your Vibration:  Do one healthy, fun thing for yourself that relieves stress and rejuvenates you (take a bubble bath, be in service to someone in need, play hide and seek with your kids, paint a picture, call an old friend, cuddle with your dog, go for a ride in the country, etc.)
  3. To Direct The Universe With Your Actions:  Do one thing you want the Universe to mirror and build upon to help you achieve your desired outcome more quickly and easily (announce a dream to start a business to someone you admire, write a page for that book you’ve always wanted to write, walk the dog at a brisker pace, send your resume to one company with a cover letter specific to that job, buy organic vegetables, smile at 5 strangers, spend 30 minutes sorting through a clutter pile, fulfill a lapsed commitment, etc.)

Keep notes on your progress and notice what miracles start taking place in your life.  Feel free to post any feedback below!

Happy Co-Creating!


© 2012 Gretchen DeWees Kennedy

Positive Poems, Thoughts, and Quotes on Death, Dying, Immortality, Heroes, and Eternity

Everyone on this earth has lost loved ones. This is a natural and universal aspect of material existence. There is one universal Life Force, expressing Itself through all beings. The same Consciousness that expressed Itself through my loved ones who have moved on is now expressing Itself through every being around me. When loving others and offering my gifts, I love and honor myself and all of Life.

In that spirit, I offer this collection to you which I gathered for a service I designed that was held today at Awakened Heart called “9/11, In Memorium”:

When The Day came —
The Day I had lived and died for —
The Day that is not in any calendar —
Clouds heavy with love
Showered me with wild abundance.
Inside me, my soul was drenched with joy.
Around me, even the desert grew green.

No one can be responsible for someone else’s death. Each soul has selected the hour and the place when he or she will transition from this plane. Others are simply the instruments we use for our departure.
— Ernest Holmes

The bitterest tears shed over graves
are for words left unsaid
and deeds left undone.
–Harriet Beecher Stowe

For death really begins with life’s first breath,
And real life begins at the touch of death.
–John Oxenham

True heroism is remarkably sober, very undramatic. It is not the urge to surpass all others at whatever cost, but the urge to serve others at whatever cost.
–Arthur Ashe

Because I could not stop for death
He kindly stopped for me.
The carriage held but just ourselves
And immortality.
– Emily Dickinson

There is but one freedom:
To put oneself right with death.
After that everything is possible.
I cannot force you to believe in God.
Believing in God amounts to coming
to terms with death. When you have
accepted death, the riddle of God
will be solved–and not the reverse.
— Camus, Albert

Seeing death as the end of life is like seeing the horizon as the end of the ocean.
-David Searls

There is no death! What seems so is transition;
This life of mortal breath
Is but a suburb of the life elysian,
Whose portal we call Death.
-Henry W. Longfellow

Heroes are great precisely because they do not allow fear and other human weaknesses to deter them from doing great works.
A hero is no braver than an ordinary man, but he is braver five minutes longer.
—Ralph Waldo Emerson

Hope is the thing with feathers
That perches in the soul,
And sings the tune without the words,
and never stops at all.
-Emily Dickenson

Although the world is full of suffering, it is full also of the overcoming of it.
—Helen Keller

There is nothing the body suffers which the soul may not profit by.
— George Meredith

God shall wipe all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death,
nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away.
-Revelation 21:4

I think only through suffering all our wonderful human qualities come out in us. Unless and until you suffer, how will you understand other’s suffering?”
-Sree Chakravarti

We need to ask, “What is death? What is the nature of that energy, that power, that consciousness which, when it was in the body, caused it to think, speak, move, love, feel and create?” When that energy leaves the body, that energy is still living, breathing, thinking, moving, loving, feeling, and creating. It is simply happening in another form that most of us cannot directly appreciate until we, ourselves, die.

Loss is a basic part of our life cycle. Whatever is born must die. Whatever grows must decay. These are universal laws. We tend to forget that these physical bodies are mortal. Everything we see around us will—one day—decay and cease to be. That includes all plants, animals, people, buildings, cities, the planet earth, the sun and even the galaxies. Everything in the physical universe is temporary. When this fact is understood and accepted, we are free to discover inner and everlasting sources of security and happiness.

Heroes take journeys, confront dragons, and discover the treasure of their true selves.
—Carol Pearson

I believe it is the nature of all people to be heroes, given the chance.
—James A. Autry

Contact with death awakens us to the fact that someday we too will die. This generates a number of questions. Why have we taken our own physical body? Is our life part of some greater process? If so, what does it require of us? Will we have fulfilled our life purpose? How can we live our lives more in harmony with that purpose? Answering these questions might motivate us to change our life style, live a more meaningful existence, improve our character, purify our love, or investigate the deeper truths of life. We may also discover that life is more meaningful when we value others and their needs.

Real heroes are men who fall and fail and are flawed, but win out in the end because they’ve stayed true to their ideals and beliefs and commitments.
—Kevin Costner

This, to me, is the ultimate heroic trait of ordinary people: they say no to the tyrant, and they calmly take the consequences of this resistance.
–Philip K. Dick

Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along. And upon the death of one, still so they remain.

When The Day came —
The Day I had lived and died for —
The Day that is not in any calendar —
Clouds heavy with love
Showered me with wild abundance.
Inside me, my soul was drenched with joy.
Around me, even the desert grew green.

My place is the placeless,
the trace of the traceless
neither body
or soul

I belong to the Beloved,
have seen the two worlds as One
and that One is

Only that breath
— Rumi

There is no need for temples, no need for complicated philosophies. My brain and my heart are my temples; my philosophy is kindness.
–Dalai Lama

Today, more than ever before, life must be characterized by a sense of Universal responsibility, nation to nation, human to human, and human to other forms of life.
–Dalai Lama

Clouds come floating into my life, no longer to carry rain or usher storm, but to add color to my sunset sky.
— Rabindranath Tagore

God, the universal life-force and energy running through everything, is an intelligent presence pervading all space; a self-existent cause; a perfect unit, a complete wholeness, and it is always Good.
–Ernest Holmes

No one can rob us of our own soul, and our spirit is already one with the eternal goodness.
–Ernest Holmes

You and I are born out of God, and just as we are born out of a divine urge that creates, so do we die. It is all creation. It is all evolution.
–Ernest Holmes

Wake up! Your word is all powerful. Your consciousness is one with Omnipotence. Your thought is infinite. Your destiny is eternal and your home is everlasting heaven.
–Ernest Holmes

We have within us a power that is greater than anything that we shall ever contact in the outer, a power that can overcome every obstacle in our life and set us safe, satisfied and at peace, healed and prosperous, in a new light, and in a new life. Mind, all mind, is right here. It is God’s Mind, God’s creative Power, God’s creative Life. We have as much of this Power to use in our daily life as we can believe in and embody.
–Ernest Holmes

Perfect peace to the soul rests in the realization of our unity with all there is, was, or ever will be. We are one with Infinite Mind. All the power of Spirit is working through our thought as we believe and receive.
–Ernest Holmes

“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.”
–Albert Einstein

Life is not separate from death. It only looks that way.
–Blackfoot Proverb

When I was hungry
I have killed the deer
and the plants he feeds upon.
I have taken fish from the water
And birds from the sky.
In my life I have needed death
So that my life can be.
As I live and when I die
I must also give life
To what has nourished me.
The earth receives my body
And gives it to the plants
And to the caterpillars
To the birds
And to the coyotes
Each in its own turn so that
The circle of life is never broken.
–Native American Prayer

Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there; I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sun on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning’s hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there; I did not die.
–Mary Frye

Affirmative Prayer for Surgery

If you know someone having surgery, you can say this prayer for them to bring about the best outcome:

As there is only One Presence, and it is Life Itself, and it is always conspiring for ever-expanding Good, I know I am also of that One Presence, as I know (insert name) is, for we are indivisible from One. And so I know that right here and now the same forces that created the Universe and its unlimited potential are at work right now, revealing the absolute Perfection of Life Itself that is exquisitely being expressed as (insert name). I know the surgeons, nurses, anesthesiologists, and everyone involved today are the perfect agents of the Universe to reveal this perfection, calmly rushing in to expand (insert name)’s Good, for the Highest Good of All. I am so grateful, and as I release my all-powerful word into the Universal Law of Mind, I know it is already done. And so it is!

© Gretchen Kennedy