Freeing Last Words for a Dying Loved One to Assist in Their Journey

Angel in the Light

What do most people fear at the moment of death? The unknown, that Life ends, that there is no God, and that their regrets or fears or worries can’t be resolved and may stay with them for eternity.

I have had two near-death experiences after surgery (discovering I’m allergic to Dilaudid), and I want to say… it is pure BLISS!

In those moments, time stopped. Joy Itself was radiating from every cell of my body. I was floating on waves of Love, Creativity, Peace (utter Peace), everything dropping away except my awareness that my body was no longer mine—that it NEVER WAS mine—that THIS is Who I Really Am. And yet, I was still very much aware, present, active, thinking and focused—not on the room, which was abuzz with activity, but on the sheer dreaminess of it all. There is Life Hereafter, and it is Divine—ALL DIVINEIn other words, there is nothing else. This body, that beeping, those nurses, this physical condition, are all illusions, temporary experiences in matter—a gift, to be sure, but a temporary gift.

The Truth is we ARE truly spiritual beings having a human experience, and ours is a fluid, co-creative reality that is ever-changing and backed by Infinite Potential, nothing less than Love Itself.

The most giving gesture you can offer someone in their final hours is the Freedom and Comfort of the Truth. Of course, you can’t explain all of this to a dying person, but you can bring them real comfort telling them that they are loved, forgiven, and already accepted by God…

I offer you these words to say to one in their final days or hours, perhaps over and over again. I hope they help bring final Peace for you and your dear friend or family member who is transitioning into this pure Awareness.

Beloved, you are in the midst of Love Itself, already resting in the arms of the Divine. God made you and has never left you. You are already accepted and received. You are wholly safe. You are already Perfect, Whole and Complete, yet nothing is ending. You are Infinite, now being reborn into the full awareness of your Oneness with Source.

You are already forgiven for anything you feel requires forgiveness, for forgiveness was never necessary. Thank you for playing your part so perfectly. Thank you for loving me so well. Thank you for letting yourself be loved by me.

Know that this Life continues. This connection continues. You are never alone. I am never alone. There is no separation. We are truly One, so this is not goodbye. I am fine. You are fine.

Breathe the breath of God, beloved. Be at ease now and know that All Is Well, All is Grace, All is Love. You are already resting in God’s Heart.

This playlist on Spotify from Adam Pacitti is at once soothing and uplifting for this time. 

New Thought Blessing of the Animals

Divine Spirit, God, is the One Presence, Perfect, Whole, and Complete, Unconditional Love Itself, Master Creator of All Things Great and Small, the macrocosm and the microcosm. Therefore, It is operating in, as, and through all of Its Creation equally.

That One Presence is operating in, as, and through me at all times as Unconditional Love, as Compassion, as Peace, and Joy. As I am One with All That Is, then I know I am Perfect, Whole, and Complete. That One Presence is also operating in, as, and through this beloved animal, (NAME), a perfect representation of the entire animal Kingdom.

I now speak my Word for NAME, knowing that his/her being is Perfect, Whole, and Complete… Well-Being Itself, healed, whole, and holy.

I honor NAME for bringing me the wisdom of the Animal Kingdom and the manifestation of the Unconditional Love of God into my home and my heart. NAME’s very presence draws me more deeply into the larger circle of Life, of the awareness of God’s Perfection, into the wonder of our common relationship with All That Is.

As God guides me in the loving care of NAME, I know It teaches me to be a good companion and responsible steward to all sentient beings on Earth. I now accept that responsibility. I accept all that is required of me to honor this Divine Expression of Life, Unconditional Love, Compassion, and Joy.

I claim and accept that the Love and Peace of God is operating right now in the lives of all animals who are lost, sick, abused, and frightened, that the perfect home, the ideal outcome, Well-Being, and the Highest Good for All is upon them now. I claim and accept that the One Presence Itself, Peace and Unconditional Love, are operating in, as, and through their caretakers, fully ready to be revealed in their hearts and hands.

I am grateful for this shift in consciousness, for all that God teaches me through Its Creation, and for the Love that God so abundantly reveals to me through Its Animal Kingdom. I am grateful for the healing, Well-Being and Peace now vibrating throughout the Animal Kingdom, including my fellow man.

I release this Word into the Universal Law of Mind, knowing that as I do so, it returns to me already done, in absolute perfection.  So, I give thanks as I bless this Word. I let it go, and I let it be.  And so it is!

Ever Think, “There’s Got To Be Something More?” You’re Right, There Is…

If you want more meaning in your life, give. YOU are the only one who can bring “something more” into your experience. As we expect the world to provide us with fulfillment, we miss the point of Life. We are here to create our own fulfillment. And fulfillment does not come from material things, it comes from enriching Life–ALL LIFE. As we enrich our lives, we enrich others’s lives too… not with a mission of saving anyone–because only they can bring “something more” into their own experience, too, but just with a mission of revealing our inherent Nature, which is happiness.

If your job is not satisfying, consider that it may not be the job but your resistance to the job, to a coworker, to your boss, or to the idea of working. Where there is resistance, there is fear. What is the fear? Does it show up in other areas of your life? If yes, then it’s not the job that’s the problem… this fear will keep resurfacing as a an invitation to deal with it head on and see it for the illusion it is. What would your life look like without that fear? Can you think of one healthy, peaceful reason to hold on to that fear? Then bless it and let it be. It is a learned condition, and it no longer serves you.

The same holds true in all areas of our lives. We see it most in relationships. Where there is withholding in a relationship, there is a power struggle. Under the power struggle there is… fear.  If you want your romantic relationship to be deeply real and wildly intimate like it was in the beginning, then BE deeply real and wildly intimate… not just once or twice to test the waters, but all the time. Your mate will either show up and meet you there or not, but to demand a deeply real and wildly intimate relationship of your mate first is unfair. And if you’re demanding that of your mate–notice the pattern–where else are you expecting the world to deliver the goods first?

As you take responsibility for your experience in every area of your life, your happiness–which is our inherent Nature when we live authentically–will bloom and grow.

Your happiness will empower others to do the same… and that is how it propagates entire families and communities. Happiness is always an inside job. We can only change ourselves and encourage others that they’re on the right path (and only they know what the right path is for them). When we tell others they are wise, capable, full of potential, and facing dozens of wondrous opportunities, even if they don’t see them yet, we are BEING LOVE and creating safe space for them to empower themselves to live authentically.

People let down their armor when they feel safe. “It is easier to get a man to remove his coat with a warm sun than a cold, biting wind.” Be wholly loving to yourself and the inspirational powerhouse you already are will expand into “more…” and yet more.

AFFIRMATION:

Today, I choose to give myself what I may be expecting or think I require from another; as I do so, I free up our relationship for wildly greater levels of Love, Harmony, Peace, and Joy.

© Gretchen Kennedy, RScP  |   http://www.gretchenkennedy.me

A Spiritual Booster Shot

I invite you to read these, take them into your meditation, alone or together, to ponder. May they reveal a Life of Peace, Joy, Love, Freedom, Truth, and greater understanding of Who You Really Are:

  • There is one God, and It is indivisible from Itself. There is no power greater than God, nothing to oppose God, no Satan… Evil is a man-made construct stemming from a sense of separation from God. It is our mistaken use of our abilities and thinking.
  • If God is indivisible, you are inseparable from God. This sense of separation from our Source is the root of all unwanted conditions/suffering. We are all of God, made in the image and likeness of God, and this is true of EVERYONE.
  • God is Love Itself, and It wants you to thrive, to have a creatively lush life of Good, filled with meaning and purpose.
  • God is ever-expanding. Through us, as individualized expressions of God, the Universe expands to accommodate the omni-activity of all Life.
  • There is Free Will in order for us to expand, and so our doubts/fears/self-worth participate in every step of our journey, creating contrast and presenting us with opportunities to heal and evolve, to enjoy pure Faith that we are not separate from God, to awaken  and align to our inherent Nature of Good, which is Love, the heart of God.
  • You are made in the image and likeness of God; therefore, you have all of Its qualities available to you — Love, Peace, Joy, Abundance, Balance, Well-Being, Order, Creativity, Compassion, etc.
  • In every situation, God is present, active, and all-powerful, and as you open to God’s unlimited potential that is operating in, as, and through you, you can shift any experience. The same Power that moves mountains and creates galaxies is ever-available to you, simply by acknowledging It.
  • These qualities are made manifest in your life to the degree that you align with them (if you want Peace, be Peace, if you want a greater sense of self-worth, volunteer, if you want more money, tithe to your church or whatever spiritual sources feed your sense of upliftment, if you want more Freedom, allow others the Freedom to be Who They Really Are, etc.).
  • Your thoughts are creative (God/the Universe responds to them, and always says, “Yes! OK! Here you go!” It responds most to the recurring/focused/charged thoughts. Your word is even more creative, particularly what you say about yourself. Never speak a negative word about anyone, ever. We are all One, so when you speak against someone, you manifest against yourself.
  • Death is an illusion… it is like changing coats. The Soul, as an individualized expression of God, is eternal.
  • You are loved, not matter what.
  • You are essential to the Whole, no matter what.
  • You are working with a Power that is beyond the human mind’s ability to fathom to create a beautiful life… Have faith in that, no matter what.
  • Your purpose is to share your Love, unique gifts, and talents to help others to come to know their preciousness and unlimited potential, and that is where you will find the most happiness.

Forgiveness Is the Doorway to Freedom Through the Song of a Loving Heart

forgiveness makes the heart grow wondrousAlthough much has been written and said about forgiveness, when I think of forgiveness, I think of three fundamental qualities; forgiveness as: 1) an attitude, 2) an acceptance, and 3) an action.  Although it does not really matter what order these come in, we might conceive of them as comprising a triangle.

As an attitude, forgiveness means embracing the moment with softness and kindness, and treating life’s current difficulties with the generosity of an open heart.  Forgiveness as an attitude makes you ready and open to when someone commits “a wrong” against you.  It is the willingness to be present and witness a transgression with innocence and understanding.  It is having sufficient faith in the goodness of all things so that painful words and painful actions are seen for what they truly are: cries of a lonely heart.  It is having the clarity to understand that most all offenses come not from the desire to wound, but rather from woundedness, and that the hurtful words or deeds in the long run always point to imbalances held within.

As you take your first steps with this attitude, you will find forgiveness begins with an acceptance or recognition that what you thought occurred most likely wasn’t about you.  It does not mean that you agree with or condone the words or behavior.  It simply means that you can now recognize that source of where they were coming from and are willing to embrace the reality of what happened.  The author, Byron Katie, would say, “Forgiveness is when you realize that what you thought happened, didn’t”.  In other words, the journey you take with forgiveness can eventually lead you to the deeper understanding that the so-called transgression was more about the other person’s pain than it was about you or something you said or did.

This does not mean your pain was any less real or your immediate reaction to the experience did not feel justified.  It does mean, however, that upon closer examination you may find that the only long-term “negative” consequence to the wrongful act was really what you made it mean in your mind.   As you learn to accept the reality of what happened, you may find that the most potent event that took place was probably in your thinking, not in the reality of the words or actions.  Forgiveness is the doorway of clarity that helps heal the confusion of a troubled mind.

Forgiveness as acceptance requires absolute honesty, respect and personal responsibility.  It summons the greatest courage of the heart to be able to clearly see that what you thought was wrong was probably the result of your own mental interpretation.  Forgiveness is about letting go of the control and fear of what should

have happened, and accepting completely what actually did happen.  It is coming to terms with how, by placing the blame outside of yourself, you lose the opportunity for deeper understanding and self-awareness.  It is living from a place of Love to such a degree that you are willing to climb up the most difficult mountain of all: forgiving yourself.  In order to forgive others you must start with forgiving yourself.

In either case, being hurt or hurting others, learning how to forgive yourself first can open up your thinking to see more clearly how you consciously or subconsciously contributed to the event that eventually caused you pain.  You become willing to take an honest inventory of yourself and the words, attitudes and/or actions that set the course of events in motion.  Regardless of what others say or how you compare this action to others, forgiveness means you are willing to take responsibility for what has happened in your reality.  It means you now have enough courage to release the blame and face the imbalance that lives within you.

As such, this attitude of acceptance always leads it to the words or actions that can then release you and others from a repetitive cycle of victimization.  With the realization that perhaps the greatest long-lasting harm is what you thought or made it mean, you are now ready to proclaim and act in truth.  After the initial reaction and perhaps a response that honors your feelings and need for the safety, through the act of forgiveness you are ready to make amends, so to speak, to yourself, to your God and to all those involved.

Forgiveness seizes the opportunity to take action in accordance with divine will.  It rectifies misunderstanding through the bravery of self-responsibility that then becomes grounded through compassionate action.  It’s says, “I see what you have done to me, brother, and I now set you free.  I see how you have only done it to yourself, and that through this experience you were willing to share with me, I can see what needs to be healed within myself”.

In its completion, forgiveness is an act of gratitude and love.  It is the affirmation that you are all deeply connected to each other and struggle for the same self-love and freedom.  It is a divine deliverance to the place where you come to realize that nothing really can ever hurt or separate you from yourself or your goodness.  Forgiveness sets you and your neighbor free through the recognition that we are all doing the very best we can, no matter what has been said or done in the past.

Finally, forgiveness is the quality that alleviates all suffering: the suffering of woundedness, the suffering of disease and injury, and the suffering of separation or death.  Forgiveness is the soothing balm that heals our deepest wound: the belief that we are separate from God.  It is the ongoing discovery that our actions and the actions of others always point in the direction of reclaiming our wholeness and holiness, no matter what the immediate experience or interpretation of that experience may look like.  Put simply, forgiveness is returning to the awareness and knowledge that we are all basically good and live together as a part of the One God.

© 2003 Jeremy Youst

http://powerofbreath.com/articles/forgiveness-is-the-doorway-to-freedom-through-the-song-of-a-loving-heart/

3 Ways to Turn Around a Bad Morning

We all have bad mornings from time to time, but here are 3 easy ways anyone can turn it around (and they work any time of day!):
1.  Stop, Drop, Roll —  Our experiences are dictated by our perspective. While we can’t always control what happens to us, we can certainly control our reaction to it: When we’re caught up in a frenetic and/or negative reaction to some event, we can always Stop, Drop, Roll:
Stop — Stop the reaction. No one is responsible for our reaction but us, and so no one can stop it but us. We can simply choose to create that shift at any time.
Drop — Take 10 deep breaths, and drop down into your body. Breathing is the physical act of release and renewal. With every conscious breath, we get out of the noise and drama in our heads and drop into our hearts, where love conquers all, and we know we are limitless beings.
Roll — Roll your attention away from the irritant.  What we resist persists, so as we turn our attention to what we do want, we are making a conscious acknowledgment that something better is available to us. Being open to that possibility is what starts the shift.
2.  Broaden Your Perspective. Ask yourself, “Does this really matter?” If your answer is yes, then ask yourself, “Is there one peaceful and healthy reason why I should hold onto this thought?”  The rules, roles, and expectations we place on ourselves and others are the number one causes of needless stress, anxiety, disappointment, and anger. Let it go and choose to be happy over being right… or righteous.
3.  Count Your Blessings.  Nothing creates a shift in perspective like gratitude.  When something unwanted happens, find something about that very situation you’re grateful for and acknowledge it. Then find another… and another. For instance, “My car won’t start, and it appears I may be late, but I’m so grateful that I have this job, and I’m grateful that I can call a mechanic and have it taken care of in a few days, and I’m so grateful that I have this car, and I’m so grateful that I have a coworker who lives nearby that I can get a ride with, and I’m grateful that there is public transportation if I need it!”  When we stop and appreciate something, we are catapulting our perspective and our vibration out of the negativity and drama and into the land of potential where “All Is Well.”
By Gretchen Kennedy, RScP

The Authentic Life

What does it mean to live authentically?

My mother would say it means to say what you mean and mean what you say, but if you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything at all.

She had it right.

But, living an authentic life is also about being true to ourselves in how we share ourselves in the world. And, I’m not just talking about sharing our opinions. If we never share our talents, reveal our creations—that painting, that poem, that song, that idea for a new business—are we being authentic? When we hide behind the paycheck of an unfulfilling job rather than start that business we’ve been planning and concocting for years, are we living an authentic life? When we dream of giving, of helping, of donating, of praising, of serving, and we withhold, are we being authentic?

Whatever your reasons have been, I invite you to stop believing them.

Living an authentic life requires vulnerability, to admit that wrong, to ask for what we need, to be the first to say, “I’m sorry,” to be the first to say, “I love you.”

Paul Coehlo says, “The magic moment is that in which a ‘Yes’ or a ‘No’ may change the all of your existence.”

When we live an authentic life, we appreciate those magic moments more… because we’re consciously creating them. We understand when we’re standing on the precipice because we chose to climb up here. Indeed, we created the precipice.

Of course, living an authentic life requires courage… a great deal of courage. After all, sometimes the scariest thing in the world is to stand up for what we believe in when everyone else is sitting down. Imagine yourself for a minute standing up there… alone.

What had you stand up? What causes you to remain standing? Is it the ego’s need to be right?  Or something more? Something greater?  Think about it… what has you stay standing has far more stamina than the ego. The ego would have sat down long ago.

At some point, we come to realize that living an authentic life is nothing less than an act of Love… perhaps the greatest act of Love there is.

Love, and Love alone, can stand up there forever. Love knows that authenticity brings greater intimacy, greater meaning, and greater rewards, even if no one else gets up there with you.

What does it mean to live authentically?

To live an authentic life means to be Love in every moment because there is no acceptable alternative.

After all, if we’re not authentic, what are we?

© 2012, Gretchen DeWees Kennedy